Speaking of Joy: Second Chances

Alleluia for second chances!  Third and fourth ones, too.

It’s amazing how many I’ve been given and that’s a blessing since I can be extraordinarily adept at making a wreck of things.

Big changes are often the result of failures and flub-ups.  We’ve all had them but very few of us really want to talk about them. 

And we’re not too terribly interested in being honest about the role we play in creating our own disasters. 

How does blaming someone else feel?   It feels great which is why so many of us make a habit of it!

But here’s the problem.

If you’re always blaming everyone else, then you really never get that second chance.  You’re stuck in your mistake – trapped, really.  

When we deny our errors, we deny ourselves the potential of positive change that comes through difficult growth.

If we viewed our mistakes from that perspective, maybe we’d be more willing to claim our junk.  Maybe we’d step up, fix our messes and move on to the next foul-up.  And yes, there will always be more.

So why don’t we own our fiascos?  

I think it’s because we hate the thought of actually being human.

We’d much rather be Superman or Wonder Woman – the perfect package.   And even though we know that perfection is an illogical aspiration, we long for the ideal self.

Maybe a better ambition is to embrace perfectly our imperfections – to love every flaw, dent and chip. 

And to love them for the second, third and fourth chance they give us to take another swing of the bat.  

It is the very definition of hope:  giving it all another go.

Until next week, I hope your life is full of second chances. 

linda

Linda Sterling Sease is a professional speaker, career coach & writer on the power of joy to transform companies, homes and communities.  To explore how Linda can work with your organization, call 303-319-5829 or email her at Linda at SterlingSease.com.