My daughter got married a few months ago. It was a memorable weekend high in the Colorado Rockies on a perfect August day.
The best part about this beautiful wedding was the man she married. My new son-in-law is a peach – exceptionally good and absolutely worthy of my adored daughter. Every mother’s dream right?
Ironically, they met 10 years ago as undergraduates in college. They dated, parted friends and fortunately, stayed friends. When my daughter returned to Denver, he filled her dance card immediately and within a few years, a wedding was on the calendar.
I think most parents pray for our children’s safety, success and happiness. I’d add to that list a prayer for the right partner in life. It makes all the difference. And unfortunately, divorce rates indicate that 45% to 50% of us get it wrong.
Happy relationships are one of the most foundational aspects of joy. According to Eric Klinenberg, sociology professor at New York University “Social relationships are a powerful predictor of happiness – much more so than money. Happy people have extensive social networks and good relationships with the people in those networks.”
And new research cited in New York Magazine confirms earlier research findings that married people are happier than non-married people. I hope so given that my daughter is a new wife.
But just being married in and of itself does not make one necessarily happy. I think that successful marriages have many traits but there is a foundational short list: trust, commitment and selflessness. Those three attributes create an atmosphere of confidence in the partnership.
And when we are confident, we can connect with our partner in ways that create sincere understanding and rich revelations about our worth in this world. Confidence in your marriage is the most valuable gift you can ever give to the person you’ve deemed husband, wife, partner.
It’s been a summer of weddings for our family. My daughter married in August and my sister’s daughter- my niece - just this past Saturday. I wish for both new couples a life of happiness and hope. And for myself and my sister? Well, you know what we both want.
We want some pint size happiness and hope!
Until next week, I hope your life is full of joy and gratitude,
Linda Sterling Sease is a professional speaker, career coach & writer on the power of joy to transform companies, homes and communities. To explore how Linda can work with your organization, call 303-319-5829 or email her at Linda at SterlingSease.com.